Thursday, 5 February 2009

To wed or not to wed is the question...

I for one hate weddings ...thing is I am really tired of going to weddings and having elderly aunties and uncles elbow me with a “You are next!!!” Honestly if it happens to me one more time, I will ensure that at the next funeral I give that person my undivided attention by repeatedly saying “You are next”...

The issue of getting me married seems to be more important than national security these days, everyone seems to be out to get me...neighbours, relatives, friends, acquaintances, all and sundry for the matter, even the neighbourhood dog seems to look askance at me whenever I cross paths with it... People seem to get into groups or huddles like the Indian cricket team to discuss the problem at hand...”GET SEN MARRIED”... is the blood curdling war cry on everyone’s lips. This brings to mind what one of my friend says whenever he is being discussed without he himself having any say in the discussion about him, he retorts ”Kya main ganga mein beheke aaya hoon ??” ...I understand a translation is needed for my international audience, it mean...”Am I like driftwood that came along the Ganges, that is the impression I get the way you are discussing me ??”

I am not anti-marriage...before you jump to conclusions let me clarify that it is not a case of sour grapes or anything...I have no illusions about myself...it is just that I like my freedom a little too much and of late I seem to be meeting guys who are more interested in either doormats or in maids who will also help pay the bills.

I have been giving it a lot of thought...rather have been made to give it a lot of thought of late... what if I end up a spinster... this is a list of positives I have managed to come up with...

1) Control the TV remote at all times!!!
2) I wear the pants in my house!!!
3) Don’t have to worry about the toilet seat!!!
4) Will positively go to heaven as I will earn loads of brownies points for sparing some poor guys life by not marrying him!!
5) Get to keep my surname!!!
6) Don’t have to worry about what to cook or how I look!!!

This is totally my point of view, it may be right, it may be wrong, I am not judging anyone... your views are welcome !!!

103 comments:

  1. interesting.. but wut if ter is some guy destined to take the pain cos of the sins he did in his prev life?? you would be ruining his ambition of goin to heaven at least this time!!! poor aatma :P

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  2. @ Sawan... hmm...interesting point of view.. Poor aatma indeed :P

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  3. lol, and again, give your parents a break.. how long would they see you when they wake up :P

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  4. @ Sawan... another interesting and thought provoking point of view :P

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  5. again, you shud be thinking of a poor soul like me who has never attended a northie wedding.. u cant deny my right to attend yours, can u? :P

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  6. @ Sawan... if I do get married it will be a proper Mallu wedding... :)...dashed your hopes again...

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  7. No comments.. jinke ghar sheeshe ke hote hai, vo dusro ke ghar par pathar nai maarte

    Sorry sen, please translate it for your english audience :P

    sawan - the sacrifice of sen getting married, just for the sake of your interest in attending a northie marriage, is too much.. you cant do that to her :)) guess you are also being too demanding these days.

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  8. sen - never mind.. I have never seen a mallu weddding before.. so should I keep the hopes alive to see it in form of yours..

    and yeah.. sawan's too :) wat say hero?

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  9. @ ST... translating it for me international audience... it means...

    "People who live in glass homes change clothes in the dark"...Sorry guys, could no help it, bad joke,(slap, slap) heheh...

    It actually mean..."People who live in glass homes don't throw stones at other peoples homes"...

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  10. ST, i wudn have minded if she was a lil younger :P

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  11. sawan - you stumped me dude.. younger? who?

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  12. @ Arre bhai koi mujhe bhi toh pucho...lagta hai wakai main ganga mein beheke aayi hoon ...

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  13. hehe lol, why to ask u yaar.. is zamane mein mere jaisa ek shareef aur neik insaan milan kitna mushkil hein :P it sud have been ur luck if it worked out.. :P

    ST,arrey we are talkin about two people's marriage right, a girl and a guy.. now tell me who is missing?? :P

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  14. milna** sorry for the typos :P

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  15. aye sawan - sen's and your's marriage as individual.. sath sath nai.. bv itni b badi nai honi chaiye re ;)

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  16. I have heard before.. badi bv.. bade bhag.. (sen please translate again.. I know you are a sweetheart and wont mind ;))

    par ye to jyada ho gaya re

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  17. hahhahahhahaaaaaaaahahhaa!! too much:):) the post n the comments..well, i'm happy S4V1 is back in action!!
    Scrawler, where r u ????

    mere side se koi comment nahi...sorry abt that, Sen n gang!

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  18. hmm.. In case you choose to be spinster, the list of advantages can go really long, to continue it from yours

    7) spend the salary on your own shopping without worrying about his list
    8) the wanted or unwanted friends in your home will actually be yours
    9) will get to read the virgin news paper not the worn and torn one found in toilet coz he was reading it there!!
    10) your fairness cream will actually be used by you
    11) No snoring music in night

    need more...? I have done PHD in the subject.. of couse for spinsters as well as bachelors :)

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  19. oh and the biggest one.. you are FREE.. no bitching.. no nagging.. no cribbing.. wow.. what else one can ask for :)

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  20. sawan.. kye yaar.. you ran away in between.. :P ye hote hai shareef and neik insaan ;)

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  21. @ Sen

    everyone will be destined with a prince charming/guardian angel definitely and somewhere out in the lithosphere there is one soul (may be innocent soul) waiting to hold hands with u...so don't discourage him...soon he will come and meet u and sweep u off ya feet...getting married has the following plus points for u;

    1) free driver, bodyguard...
    2) extra money for shopping...
    3) one more gift on b'days and otehr days...
    4) extra day to buy saree (wedding day )...
    5) kids an additional bonus...

    so wait fo rit and go for it..

    cheers...

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  22. description:HOW HAPPY IS LIFE WITHOUT A LoVeR (Gf/Bf)

    Reasons why LIFE without a LoVEr (GF/BF) is cool

    1. You can stare at any Girl / boy.......

    2. You don't have to spend money on him/her.

    3. You won't get boring result in ur board papers.

    4. No Lover, no emotional blackmailing.

    5. This can be more to life than just waiting for the bloody phone to ring.

    6. You won't have to tolerate someone else defining, "right" and "wrong" for u.

    7. bf/gf can get so possessive that you can't do anything according ur wishes anymore.

    8. You can buy gifts for mom, dad, sis or grandpa instead of a bf/gf and have a happier family life.

    9. You won't have to waste paper writing love letters. No more endless waiting for ur date to arrive at some weird shop place.

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  23. //1) free driver, bodyguard...//

    What if marrying a SODHA boy (means fragile)?? She has 2 b his bodyguard... Selladhu Selladhu (Naatamai style means NOT VALID)

    //2) extra money for shopping.../

    What if he s not earning???


    //3) one more gift on b'days and otehr days...//


    Refer 2... Sen has to hide her purse!! :)

    //4) extra day to buy saree (wedding day )...//

    Sen don't like Sarees!!! :P


    Maintaining decency am not talking 5th point!!!

    PS: Sen don't take it serious.. this is HIT AND CHASE between me and Lancelot :)

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  24. @ Kartik:

    Point (1) - u mean like the pics u send me (the mr india, body builder, pachai snaps?? :P)...but Sen will not choose sodha boys she wil go for a hunk...

    (2) again Sen will not choose sothukku setha pasanga :P (means who is good for nothing)...

    (3) refer (2)

    (4) She does like Sarees (how do u know Kartik :P)

    (5) No comments about your no comments :P

    P.S: Sen same excuse Kartik gave :P

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  25. Sen&ST missed one imp point...there won't be any question of blame game! :-)

    will be back in an hour with more

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  26. @lancelot..additional bonus??No way...the real cribbing begins after that additional bonus!THese days..maintainence/running expenditure of 'that bonus' is triple than that of elders!

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  27. @ scrawler

    Perspective defers, for me kids are the beautiful thing on earth- so i love to have kids...but if u are so material then u will find them as a burden...

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  28. ya...perspective defers...i mean to wed or not to wed :D

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  29. @SEN...regarding sur name...there is no need to change the sur name after marriage

    coz even after wedding u continue to be the daughter of ur house!ur roots are not gonna change..ur blood remains the same..

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  30. @ scrawler so true...

    it applies even to:

    to thu or not to thu :D
    to fri or not to fri :D
    to sat or not to sat :D
    to sun or not to sun :D
    to mon or not to mon :D
    to tue or not to tue :D

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  31. enna saar ithu....kadi/mokkai???

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  32. chumma to ease the situation- its gettiing more serious :P

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  33. Scrawler - Translation please.. for Sen's non mallu audience :P

    sen - I am sure, tum ganga main bah kar he aayee ho.. look at it.. people are going crazy here... but you must be feeling very important na :P

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  34. Lancelot - for kids.. wait till you have them.. I too love kids.. but other people's ;)

    Its not about being materialistic but things get changed when they are your own :))

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  35. experience speaks brotehr??? :P :P u never told us about it :P

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  36. ST ...thats not a mallu word...mokkai/kadi is a Tamil word..means...something equivlent of PJ...

    enna saar ithu means...whats this sir?

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  37. Lancelot.. there is that old joke..

    I know hens lay eggs...but I know more about omelette than hen

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  38. scrawler - this is second time with me :( earlier once on Karmanna's blog

    but cant help it all southie languages look same to me.. :P

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  39. karmanna's post was in mallu..but u mistook it as kannada...

    now its tamil..u took it as mallu...ha ha ha

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  40. @s-thoughts,
    worry koni,beero!!
    hum he hindusthani :)

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  41. karmana.. got it this time.. finally !!! yohuuuuuuuuuuuu

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  42. @ ST... quite a good case for not getting married... I think I like the idea a lot :)

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  43. @ Vin... what i this... I want comments from you... either you side me or you dont :P

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  44. @ Lancelot... you seem to be overdosed on the romantic KJo films... if every person is destined to find a mate... how do you explain the spinsters and bachelors over the centuries ???

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  45. @ Karthik... totally with you bro... life is definitely better without a possessive other halkf :P

    and I don't mind it at all... it makes for some really interesting reading :P

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  46. @ Scrawler... absolutely agree with you on the blame game bit :P

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  47. @ Scrawler... yeah I love my surname too much ... I am a total daddy's girl :P

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  48. @ ST...yeah.. main ganga mein beheke hi aayi hoon :P

    @ Karmanna ... :))

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  49. so..problem no:5 solved! i mean sur name issue :D

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  50. @ Scrawler... you bet it is :)

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  51. apparently its not.. scrawler took the cake :(

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  52. wow.. mine is 50th comment.. I have nothing to say but just wanted to seize the opportunity.. Sen I guess its for first time on your blog.. right ??

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  53. @ ST.. yes it the first time :P... but scrawler beat you to it :P

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  54. yeah :( but its all in team.. so let us be sport :)))

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  55. My kid is in kindergarten...mine is still the same old sur name..i mean my daddy's!haven't changed :P

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  56. karmanna logged off from the chat window....
    (actually...karmani kame with a log ..
    sen!! never marry a netty guy... ;) )

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  57. @ Scrawler... thanks :)

    @ Karmanna... LOL

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  58. Sen : your post sure has kindle many a hearts... as always love ur writing... freedom is too hard to find and should not be easily surrendered ;-) what say

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  59. Is this a new record? ... 60 comments! ... well u sure seem to have hit upon a very favourite topic .. all i can say is that ... marriage is the biggest gamble of one's life ... one can be as cautious as possible but u hv to bite the bullet one day .. wish u good luck!

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  60. Picture abhi bhaaki hain gang...

    Sen has given me permission to express my views on her marital dilemma!!

    well, i personally believe that i want benefits of both - individual freedom as well as an equally engaging partner who analyses my freedom without cutting my wings...its one life yaar...why not share it with someone???

    Sawan, our in-house philosopher has chosen the 'safe' route for comments discussion/debate (since the topic is debatable one)...started off with a joke n i read some 50 PJs/mokkais after that!! Thank u guys :)

    now, on a serious note...though most of us r not ready to face it..
    the ULTIMATE truth - v r scared to wed since being that close will reveal our 'inner' short-comings n the thing we should hate in ourselves, we start hating in our partner!! if only u wed, will u have a true partnership of life yaar..damn these TV remote n surname issues :):)

    n my wishes for u, Sen, is this : May u have a partner who wont break the partnership even if u r not 'capable' n works towards 'making u capable' n vice versa...in short : To Wed is my answer, girl:)

    Sorry gang...i have no humor left in me for this topic..thats y i restrained from commenting initially:)

    Sawan, what have u to say? it will be philosophising but what the heck..Sen has given full rights to us..this is our space:)

    To wed or not to wed (to be continued...) but with realistic pros n cons plsssssssss

    over to u Sawan..lets make this the biggest marathon commenting ever !!

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  61. @ LV... absolutely!!

    @ Sush... yesh it is the biggest gamble of our lives :)

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  62. @ Vin...I have to agree with you to some extent I believe all of us a scared ...

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  63. vinnie darlin, i need to spent some time on this thought.. ill be back.

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  64. Vin, sorry but I beg to differ here.. we are not scared with our own shortcomings. This is some thing we all know and more than that, I always think, we should try to analyze ourselves time by time and improve on it. I am not sure about others but at least for me, that is the case. I am not scared of revealing my shortcomings to my partner. I think I know my own shortcomings and will always be transparent and open enough to reveal/discuss that with my partner and try to improve the things.. and thus the hating thing will not come up in picture. I am open to accept it as she is coz that is what we know as love.. if its love, it should be unconditional, not with a changed persona of some one.. not with what we want him/her to be but with what he/she is.. What I am afraid of is, her perspective of the same. When we speak about our marriages, we need to consider, we are not kids or immature any more. We are in an age when we have a grown up mind and we have firm thoughts and views on any and every thing in this world. If it was 10 years back when we were 20 some thing, and got married at that time, both of the partners would have been in an age when they would have grown up together and formed the opinions together as per the circumstances, environment in our surroundings and each other’s nature. However, now this is not the case and there are fairly good chances that our would be partner don’t have the same mindset. On top of that, he/she might not be willing to adjust and instead choose to stick to his/her perspective. I and guess all of us, want a peaceful life. There is already enough shit in life to deal with and at least I don’t want that in my personal life as well. I don’t want to have a dictator or constant nagger with a different view than mine on every damn thing.. not only the different view but with a firm believe that only her view is correct.. so I am not scared with myself.. but with what life has for me.. in terms of my partner..

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  65. Been said that, I would like to add that I am not against the marriage by any means and very much looking forward to get settled in the life. I have always believed in this institution (Especially after seeing my parents and brother) and I think it can be one of the most beautiful things if both of the partners think about it that ways. I just want my partner to be very open and have a similar perspective on this. I want her to accept me as I am and have a positive attitude towards life and relationships, and then work mutually on the points where we differ. But end of day, we can not have an exactly same mindset on every thing and thus both of the partners will need to accept that fact. Problems come up with rigidity and that is some thing one should avoid… that is it.. Flexibility is the key.. at least that is what I think

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  66. ST, the gang's practical philospher took up the baton!
    thanks for ur tippani..quite short ah? anyways, i think the debate is over now..Sawan is not in philosophical mood, it seems..n i agree with u, sweety:):)

    but not all of us r comfortable with our shortcomings na, forget accepting them..on top of that, we get married n expect the other to 'adjust' which is not right!

    thats what i meant when i said 'v r scared' - most ppl arent strong wnough to acknowledge their own weaknesses:)

    as for u, all the best for ur transparent partnership:)

    Conclusion: Problems come up with rigidity and that is some thing one should avoid…Flexibility is the key !!!
    jaise Tata sky record wala option - jab biwi serial dekhe tho hubby ka cricket record hoga:):)

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  67. vin - its not that I am comfortable with my shortcomings, its some thing that haunts me and that is why I said, try to improve them.. and I am not saying that the partner alone should adjust.. it’s a two way process. I am saying for an open view and then mutually work together to improve the things and get adjusted for each other. One should accept the other one as it is without the asterisk of terms and conditions. Its just that we have formed an opinion about every damn thing and most of us are rigid on it.. and that is what I am scared of.. what if my partner is rigid!! I guess that is the case with most of us.. but probably the individuals here can tell that better.

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  68. vinnie,

    "v r scared to wed since being that close will reveal our 'inner' short-comings n the thing we should hate in ourselves, " - i do not agree.. atleast I am not scared of it. Yes I am scared, but for another reason. I am scared if I would be able to keep her happy. I am scared of my financial status and wonder if i could support another soul, some one heo is a total stranger for me today. I am scared cos I got no idea on what she needs and I dont want her to compromise her dreams only cos she chose to be with me. I am scared if I could grow up to her demands. Yes, you heard me right, I am scared on monetory terms. Now dont tell me money dsnt count if love is there. Be practical. Monetory status is quite important in our real life, so is it in maintaining a relationship. maybe directly or indirectly. Directly when one is not able to meet the demands of the other. Indirectly when one is disturbed cos of monetory problems and that disturbed mood in turn disturbs his/her love life. Having said that I am also scared if our frequencies would match.Choosing a girl from a list of strangers is nothing less than gamble!

    Even though I have these thoughts in mind, I still agree with you when you say that "To Wed is my answer" and when you say that "if only u wed, will u have a true partnership of life:. Marriage is such a wonderful concept. A concept where in you take vows to be with each other in thick and thin. Its a concept where in you welcome a new person into your life, as your friend, your support, your partner, your what not!

    In Hinduism, Ardhanari or Ardhanarishvara, is an androgynous deity composed of Shiva and his consort Shakti, representing the synthesis of masculine and feminine energies. The Ardhanari form also illustrates how the female principle of God, Shakti is inseparable from the male principle of God, Shiva. Hinduism, especially of the Samkhya school(Sankhya, also Samkhya,is one of the six schools of classical Indian philosophy. Sage Kapila is traditionally considered to be the founder of the Sankhya school. It is regarded as the oldest of the philosophical systems in India.), views the creation of the cosmos as the result of the play of two radically distinct principles: the feminine matter (Prakriti) and the masculine spirit (Purusha). Prakriti is the primordial matter which is present before the cosmos becomes manifest. Prakriti is seen as being "...the power of nature, both animate and inanimate. As such, nature is seen as dynamic energy". Prakriti is originally passive, immobile and pure potentiality by nature . Only through her contact with the kinetic Purusha she unfolds into the diverse forms before us. The idea of Prakriti/Purusha leads to the concept of the Divine Consort.A marriage joins two individuals for life, so that they can pursue dharma (duty), artha (possessions), kama (physical desires), and moksha (ultimate spiritual release) together. It also joins two families.

    So its quite evident that our marriage was considered important in Renaissance philosophy era and quite before that.Today we might say that we are happy single. We could be independent, we enjoy freedom. But are we really happy? Could anything on the earth replace the happiness obtained by those small moments when we share those sweet nothing whispers with our better half's? Could anything on this earth replace the pleasure obtained with physical union? Okies, post modern thoughts could argue over this, we dont have to get married for a physical union! true. But how about the security and happiness we feel when we cuddle each other after a physical union, just feeling each other's breathe confident that its our partner for life, our companion in thick and thin.Some feelings are just reserved with responsibility and commitment. Theres no reason why we cant take them. True that no one could see future, true that no one could assure you that the marriage would go good. but if you ask me, its a risk worth taking!

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  69. oye vin.. aur kar le challenge hero ko.. padhne se pahle ambulance call kar lena.. I am sure tum behosh padi milogi iske baad...

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  70. sawan - dude.. is there any place where you have left the stones unturned.. Hinduism.. my god !!

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  71. Sawan saar!!!

    khaafi taunt ke baad aap aye..lekin kya aye - fultoo josh e saath!! thanks for that man, very much apprecited:)

    ur comments r perfect n enlightenng to know a man's point of view...I LOVE YOU:)

    Will u please Marry me???

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  72. sawan - you got two options now.. sen and vin :)))) must be a touch choice man !!

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  73. OMG! i think i missed some practical comments

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  74. i think i'm too late to comment here..still will be back in an hour!

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  75. Here comes my honest tips for a healthy married life


    1)Wedding is not only the unficiation of 2 bodies,,but the fusion of 2 families…But most of the times we forget this!
    2)Never proceed for a wedding with too much of expectations.It will hamper ur joy
    3)We all love our personal space and freedom.Imagine a life without freedom?imagine a situation,where we need to get permission for each and every small things?imagine a state where the partner intrudes into each and every personal space?what will happen?definitely we regret for getting into the wedding thing.Respect each other’s freedom and personal space
    4) Kindly treat the partners as INDIVIDUALS.Most of the couples live under the illusion that,immediately after marriage the wife/husband belong to them!Hence they keep on pestering them on a hell lot of things…with a long lists..things to do..or not to do!Instead of treating them as husband/wife ,kindly consider them as friends/individuals.Appreciate their individuality.Encourage them to take their own decisions.
    5)Be brave ,Take your own decisions and stand up by them.
    6)Learn to take interests in each others interests..if we are unable to take intersests..no problem..but never hamper their interests.
    7)Forget and Forgive..don’t emphasise too much on petty mistakes/issues..
    8)Don’t fix deadlines for each and every small things…
    9)Accept the partner as such..
    10)Never try to be a bodyguard/escort in their activities…By doing so,peace of mind will be lost!
    11)Above all understanding a bit of gender psychology is a must..but at the same time,there can be minor exceptions too..
    12)Don't clutch to a set of fixed rules and regulations for a married life

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  76. we are not scraed of our short comings...we sacred of losing our space..therby losing ourselves in a married life.Thats the truth.Thats why we are aprrehensive of marriage thing.

    Choosing a girl from a list of strangers is nothing less than gamble!

    sawan..chosing a partner(be it love marriage or arranged marriage)is a gamble.

    The reason is..we tend to behave in a particular way,if we are being assessed by some others..isn't it?it happens both in love as well as in tomorrow..So the risk exists in both type of marriages.THere is no guarantee that the marriage will be a success ..Only Time can answer!

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  77. Lot of typos in my comments :-)

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  78. @ All...Thank you for the great debate on this topic...

    Sawan, your philosophical view of this issue rocks...

    ST... your practical approach is a more wordly and cautious approach...btw, when in this entire conversation did I mention that I want to MARRY sawan ??


    Vin...sweetie, you are welcome to marry Sawan :P

    Scrawler... I just loved your views on this topic. I have to agree it is the loss of personal space and individuality that is making me a reluctant bride :)

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  79. Vinnie darlin, life dsnt give you many second chances.. think again :P

    scrawler, wow, that was a dozen of worthy tips. thnx :)

    Seno, I am not that bad u know?? :P

    ST, lol, you know that i love philosophy, dont u? :P

    L, lol :P

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  80. @sawan...'worthy tips' is not gonna end here..i'm going to post a sequel to sen's "To wed or not to wed"!

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  81. ha ha ha.. bunch of frustrated souls.. to whom no body listens in their homes so we are venting out all gyan in here.. thanks sen.. tum nai hoti to hamara kya hota :)))

    Scrawler - sequel wow.. for some days poems are on hold? :P

    sawan - love triangle.. ;)

    sen ye to "dil to pagal hai" ka mallu version ho gaya yaar ;)

    Guys My next blog - Dil To Pagal Hai - Mallu Ishtyle ;)

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  82. @ Sawan... you confuse me...on one hand you tell Vin to think twice about marrying you and then you tell me "I am not so bad :P "

    Make up your mind saar :P

    @ ST... Wait till I get my hands on you... I will wring your neck...

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  83. Sawan saar...i dont need second chances..U R the MAN for me...thats it!!!

    but if ur choice is Sen, then i wont mind..i want her to be the happiest ever!!

    or u could marry both of us, we wont lose our respective best friend to a marriage then, what say ??

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  84. ST....now u have got two options..either to be a Hero or Villain ..which one are u gonna choose??

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  85. @ Vin... My mind is made up as well... dont want to marry Sawan inspite of all his good qualities... and no, i do not believe in sharing :P

    @ Scrawler... why does ST have to choose ?

    Not sure I understand... am I missin something ?

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  86. @ vinnie

    Sticking my tongue out at you and it means U DESPO :P

    @ Sen

    U can actually share Sawan Sir with Vin..Vin is a good girl... :P

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  87. @ Lancelot...Vin Maybe a good girl...but I have not in the past and will not share anything for that matter :)

    Mere Gham bhi mere aur Khushi bhi Mere ...Meaning both my sadness and happiness belong to me, I refuse to be at the mercy of others, by allowing them control over myself :)

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  88. so VIN u win unopposed :P :P :P

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  89. @all:

    Sawan saar's silence says it all :(:( :( anyways, never mind!

    so my search for 'The Complete Man' starts again....

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  90. @ vin

    he he he....read my blog on kartik..tat will help u :P

    @ otehrs

    8 more for century...hit it guys hit it...

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  91. If you asak me, You know my answer "Offcourse get married" I'm sure my perception will not change after I tie knots with my Fiance. So please take advicse and get married soon, cheers Deeps!!!!!

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  92. Aamir fal chakha nahin aur doosro ko bol raha hain BADIYA hain. Jo logon ne chakha hain (jaise main) unko bolne de. Whether you get married or not just keep smiling is all I have to say. hehehe

    On a serious not, please don't write stuff like this and make us realise that we have made a MISTAKE. hehehehehe

    Good keep it up, now we know what we are missing for sure.

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  93. Once i read somewhere that once you cross 40, people realise that it is good to be married.

    because at that age normally in our society everybody is married. i think this trend is changing now.

    One of my friends, who has a 19 year old son, says that the only fear he has that one day his son should not bring a GUY home and announce "MEET MY LIFE PARTNER".

    Such are the times. Maybe when we reach our 40's there won't be anything like get married beacuse of society pressure.

    What say ??

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  94. @ Tarun: i would love to be in that era, is time travel possible.
    (I am not 40 yet :))

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  95. he he he listen to Aamir Sen...

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  96. and this is to sen congrats on your 100th what gift u gonna give to the person posting te 100th comment??

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  97. @ Tarun

    may be when we reach 40 we might think like that...but its better for the kids to choose their own pair yaar..later on we will be blamed if we choose one for themm

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  98. I am the 101 comment holder so award goes to me ;-, beginning of a new era

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  99. Lancelot

    I am not saying that parents should choose.

    I am just saying there won't be anything like that (marriages). They would prefer Live-in relationships.

    Recent statistics show that there are the number of people not getting married is increasing.

    I am not refering to you Sen

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  100. wow, seems like a loooooooooooooooooooooooooong discussion :P i sure missed a lot of it.. :((

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